Solution To Marital Problems | Part 2 | Last Part

 

Solution To Marital Problems | Part 2 | Last Part

3. Demand for Dowry

 The main reason for the deterioration and unrest in the life after marriage is the demand for dowry from the boys. Many people insist on demanding dowry from girls and at the same time ignore the financial status of girls. The girl child fulfills the wishes of the four boys but because of this they face severe depression and pressure. Allah (swt) has forbidden usurping the wealth of others in a false way. Allah, the Exalted, says in verse 29 of Surah An-Nisa ': “O you who believe! Do not consume your property among yourselves in a false manner except that it is a trade between you by mutual consent, and do not kill yourselves. Indeed, Allah is Most Merciful to you. Therefore, such false demands should be avoided and the source of sustenance should be understood as Allah Almighty. Positive thinking creates a sense of well-being and peace in the home, and after marriage, love and affection develop between the bride and groom.

4. Troubles on the occasion of marriage

 Ahadith Mubarakah has instructed simplicity on the occasion of marriage, but in general, a lot of troubles are performed on this occasion, which increases the economic pressure on both the families. ۔ Many times poor and middle class people are forced to take out a loan to cover their marriage expenses. This type of marriage causes mental confusion in the family. Life after marriage is marred by problems and differences due to economic hardship.

5. Lying at weddings: Lying is usually used at weddings regarding a boy's income and a girl's age and education. The bitterness of lies also increases the bitterness with each other. It is a fact that Allah, the Blessed and Exalted, has blessed the truth very much and whatever truth is involved in it, Allah (swt) also includes His support in it. Thus Allah, the Exalted, says in verses 70 and 71 of Surah Al-Ahzab: “O you who believe! Fear Allah and say the right word, He will make your deeds right for you and He will forgive you for your deeds. Sin.

6. Negligence in the discharge of rights and duties

One of the major reasons for the failure of marriage is to exaggerate the demands of rights and to fail in the performance of duties. While Allah Almighty has highlighted the rights and duties of both the bride and groom in the Quran. Allaah says in verse 228 of Sura al-Baqarah: And Allah is Mighty, Wise. If the husband and wife show diligence in discharging their duties instead of attaching extra expectations to each other, then many evils in the society can be eliminated.

7. Nudity and mixing

Nudity and mixing is also a major cause of spoilage in homes. When a husband sees his wife talking frankly with non-men or a woman sees her husband talking frankly with non-men, they become suspicious of each other which gives rise to suspicions. Are and trust hurts; Therefore, for the success of the life to come after marriage, it is necessary to keep the veil and shame in the house so that the house can be made a cradle of peace and tranquility by cleansing it from doubts and suspicions.

8. Lack of contentment

Financial hardship is also a major cause of failure in marriage. Many people live well with each other in times of economic hardship but when the economy is tight they start to be suspicious of each other even though it is necessary to keep in mind that economic expansion and hardship is in fact Allah. It is from the Blessed and Exalted, and it is Allah, the Blessed and Exalted, who changes the days. Therefore, those who are patient in times of hardship and thankful in times of openness always live a happy life. If the above points are followed then surely after marriage the house can become a cradle of peace and tranquility. May Allah Almighty make every home the cradle of peace and tranquility. Amen