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Home Furnishings
There is a beautiful hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him).
"Khair kum khair kumkum lahllah wa anna khairukum lihli." (Sunan at-Tirmidhi, Hadith No.
Translation: "The best person among you is the one who is kind to his family, and I am the best of all of you to my family."
He said: Do not be quick-tempered, cruel or a warrior in the house, but treat them well, and if someone is not good on the outside, but is bad at home, then he is bad. Good with family. Treat it with the intention that it is also part of worship, and I get good deeds for such a kind attitude.
Family Learning
It is a pity that men want to see a good environment in their home, but do not make any effort to cultivate this good environment, although they can create a very beautiful environment on their own. He asks for clothes, food, cleanliness and comfort, but does not ask for prayers. The text does not ask about the Bible. Takes you shopping, but not to a charity party, although if everyone in the house creates an atmosphere of community for just 5 minutes a day by reading a religious book, it will bring amazing benefits. God's Providence
Important Question
An important but difficult task for a man is to give his wife some time apart from rest and food. In it, both of them openly share with each other whatever their heart desires, and there are no restrictions in this expression, until the couple agrees with each other that there will be no problems between us, we sell to other people. I will say this to each other without hesitation.
A man may hear a lot of bitterness about his mother and sister, but may think that he has a lot of work responsibilities, breastfeeding, pregnancy, training and all that. Despite ridicule and ridicule, she continues to eat arrows, so at the time, if she does not listen to her pain (even if she does not), then who else will listen, but care must be taken to just listen and listen, listen again and again, always listen. Listen carefully, but let no one react to this rumor, otherwise, in caring for his wife and children, he will go beyond and usurp the rights of his parents and sisters, just as he will go to his mother Mokhtarma. So it is there, if he only listens to his wife, if he reacts, he will part with his own house.
Differences of the Temperament Between Men and Women
One important and last thing is to try to understand your wife's mood. In the Holy Quran, Allah Almighty has mentioned the term negligence for women in one place, while for men negligence means negligence or one who performs his duties is called negligent. But in the sense in which "carelessness" is used in the Qur'an for women, it means forgetfulness or a woman who does not know the level of intelligence, but has a straightforward and very sincere temperament, philosophizing in everything. I can not understand the reasons and essence. Guess when this man complains to this woman several times that you don't understand her? Don't you have any sense? Why do you say the same thing over and over again? Are you behind? Why don't you understand? These are all phrases in which a man expects the highest degree of wisdom from his wife when Allah Almighty did not put him on this path.
Note: While some women do retain a high level of knowledge and wisdom, she is an exception.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) once told Hazrat Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) about the temperament of his wives. It is known when you are happy or angry with me. "How?" He asked. He (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) says: “When you are pleased with me, you say: “Lord Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)” (Lord of Muhammad!) And when you are angry, you say: Lord of Abraham (Lord of Abraham) !
And in response, Umm Al-Mu'minin Hazrat Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) says:
These are just a few of the informative goal setting examples you can use.
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